I was reading this post which made me remember my last visit to Amman almost 3.5 years ago
Little 7aki was only 4 months old at the time. A month prior to that I had some professional photos taken of her and one of them was her dressed up like a fairy, so she was topless in it with fairy wings, the photo was soooo cute.
I brought my Mom a copy of the picture because I was sure she is going to love it, and she did, right away she framed it and hung it up on the wall.
Some family friends came over to visit to see little 7aki , I knew these people since I can remember, since I was sooo little so I was super excited and was showing them little 7aki’s photo album and some photos I took in Amman and in a couple of them little 7aki was topless . The guy told me flat out that I shouldn’t be taking any topless pictures of my daughter and if I did I shouldn’t be showing them to people and that my mom should not put this picture up on the wall.
I had heard this comment in Canada before from 2 different men (who happened to be single with no kids of their own), one was pure Canadian born and raised and another one was Arab, at how I shouldn’t be showing this picture to people and how it made them uncomfortable.
Until this day I really don’t get it, how can a topless baby picture make people uncomfortable, IT’S A BABY that’s only 3 months old!
And if the photo was of a boy you’d be OK with it? I mean all babies look the same be it boys or girls! It’s not like the baby was naked or anything and I was showing any private parts!
It got me to thinking, do the men who feel uncomfortable have something wrong with them? Is it because they don’t have kids of their own that they feel weird about it? Culture in this case was not the factor since Canadians and Arabs alike said it made them uncomfortable.
I also remembered a statistic I’ve read somewhere that showed that men who fathered children especially men who fathered girls were very less likely to become pedophiles or to look at children as sex objects than men who never fathered children. I know that this statistic of course does not include all men, but it was done on the pedophiles and a huge percentage of them had never had a child or if they did have one they were never involved in taking care of them like changing the diaper or bathing them, etc etc (sorry I tried to find the source but I had read it in the newspaper)
Makes you think.
So I need your opinion readers:
Topless baby girl pictures, cute or a no no ?
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