You know how us young people are obsessed with getting the perfect tan, not too dark not too light just the perfect hue of golden brown.
When I first got engaged to hubs we used to go to the dead sea/pools to go swimming and tanning. After we went 2 or 3 times we went to visit his grandmother and then she looks at me and says: “I don’t understand why you young girls do this, you go tanning so you can get dark? dark is not pretty, wallahi when I was a 3aroosa I did not leave the house for 3 months because I wanted to be very white for my wedding, the bride is so beautiful when she is like white sugar covered almonds, so now you are all somor.”
Then she would continue saying ”The girls in my neighborhood that are samara never got married quickly and got married to whomever because men love pretty light skinned girls”
So what do you say to that? Really! I was nodding and saying, yah you are right aha aha…lol…but my husband would jump to the rescue and say, ana ba7ibhom somor.
I thought to myself , it’s funny how old generations think this way and I thought most probably this is no longer the norm and people stopped thinking like that until the following happened:
My Brother in law was planning on getting married. I was visiting Jordan at the time and my father in law was in Amman too without his wife. He asks me to accompany him because he can’t enter peoples homes without a female with him to see this woman for his son (this is very ironic isn’t it? considering my stand in regards to this method? but I could not say no because my father in law would get upset).
We go to this girls house who is supposed to be veiled, first she comes out with my father in law there without the hijab. That was my first shock. Is she not wearing it to show off all her assets? then she explains” I am not wearing the hijab because you (talking to my father in law who she never met in her life) are like khalo” I thought oh buddy this is going to be interesting!
My father in law surprised me by saying “I want to go pray at the mosque” so he took the girls father and went leaving me there by myself with people I have never met in my life ….YIKES… what am I supposed to say or whatever, I was like, this is getting really really uncomfortable.
So the girl is talking to me about this and that and whatever then all of a sudden she said” I am by the way very light skinned, you see my face dark but I am really light” and she proceeded to unbutton her blouse to show me how white her half naked boobs were describing them as “white as ivory”. I Was SHOCKED.
My father in law came after 10 minutes and I finally left traumatized.
Are some women so desperate to get married that they succumb to this?
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