Update: Well this is great isn’t it???? A person can’t joke or have any sense of humour at all when sex is the subject. Or is it because I am a woman this subject becomes taboo and not acceptable? Gosh, maybe I lived in North America for too long…I tend to forget. … So typical of some people to judge and throw insults like that!
And NEWS FLASH … married people DO HAVE SEX.
You angry at each other? Have angry sex
You happy? Have happy sex.
You get into a fight? Have makeup sex…it’s the BEST.
The only type of sex you should NEVER have is sad sex … ewww … because there is nothing more unattractive than crying before, during or after sex…3anjad ewwwww
So let me start over (time to be serious ):
I think one of the most important things about staying sane when married is to always try to have time alone away from the kids the work the responsibilities. Book a vacation, go watch a movie or have dinner together it’s very very important or you will start forgetting the person you fell in love with because you get consumed with responsibilities and the day to day routine.
Unplug from all that and just have some fun… speaking of which, hubs and I are going to Punta Cana on July 30th … woooohoooo … for a week 🙂 check it out. Little 7aki is staying with my mother in law for the week :D.
Another very important thing is to have time alone FROM each other, it is very very important too. Book time to go out with the girls or the boys alone or just some sanity time by yourself to think and reflect on things. Losing who you were before marriage is not good, this is the person your husband or wife fell in love with from the first place.
So being stuck to each other all the time is not good you have to give each other some space or you will drive each other insane. Every week my husband and I have a day out each with our friends. It gives us energy and we have something new to talk about.
Apologise when you know you’ve wronged the other person. Pride is Evil! Apologizing shows that you respect the other person and that you don’t take them for granted and that you care about them.
The other day I was just , I donno, hormonally imbalanced … lol … and I ended up snapping at my husband and I was just mean. I noticed it kinda upset him but he didn’t say anything about it so after I cooled off I apologized right away and said “Sorry 7ayaty for snapping. I am just in a bad mood and I shouldn’t have taken it out on you”.
Now this might sound like a cliché but the saying “never go to bed angry at each other” is sooo right, there is nothing worse than the morning after where you wake up angry at each other, it’s just awkward. You have to resolve the problems as soon as they happen and never let them brew EVER. Always say what’s on your mind but always be respectful and civil never attack and never criticize. The discussion you have with the husband or wife should always have a point. Never argue just for the sake of arguing.
If I need something or want something from my husband I always tell him directly no hints no insinuations, they don’t work, because the other person cannot read your mind and you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Another thing is always have a sense of humour because it keeps you guys alive, laugh at some problems or situations because at the end of the day it’s just mostly silly stuff you argue about. Really!
For example who cares if the bed was not made today? It’s just the bed! Will it change your life if it never gets made? Will it change anything? The answer is no so learn to sweat the important stuff not the small stuff because the small stuff is … well …small and insignificant. Now if you are anal by nature you have to try and work on that, that’s something you can change and should try and change.
Marriage is not butterflies and rainbows all the time but it is lots of fun. You have a soul mate that knows you more than anybody in the world and the closest to you that you share things with that you cannot share with friend’s, family or anybody. Love each other, comfort each other and be there for each other.
My only advice is to choose well.
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